Can you imagine that anyone could be brooding over not asking someone out 17 years after! That's what I learnt recently from one of our folks. Some feel like what the heck I should have asked her out then and some are like I probably should have said yes instead of playing hard to get or feeling like I was rather young; afterall don't we eventually come to it?
This post is for confessions; if we confess to Priests and Imams, we can as well confess to ourselves especially knowing that the person is now way beyond your reach. If the burden had begun to grow since when we were in FGCO it probably would have become a teenage burden by now...
I personally heard stories about this person likes you, that person talked about you but I guess the only one who belled the cat is someone I still respect today go tomorrow come. Religion has a way of limiting your catchment area but we definitely don't have regret that's if I can speak for him... so let's hear it from you.
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Bros G said...
This heading is for folks like my humble self! yes o! I'm only human and not the superman classmates thought I was. I had intended writing this piece under an earlier post (the one on dating) but changed my mind. But its like you read my mind again with this new post. Well, here it is..................
It was way back then in 1989 there in FEGO. She was my first love ever......even my mum noticed it during the holidays and said as much. And mum was so so correct! She (mum) said she saw a change in my eyes with a kind of glitter of happiness.
But guess what? I never had the 'liver' to 'toast' my first love. She knew I felt something deep for her and she actually mentioned it to someone then who also told me. She also liked me and waited for me to come to do the 'toasting' as is the usual practice with the male/female relationship.
My personal philosophy of relationships is that anyone, the female inclusive could do the toasting also if she really really feels for the guy! I know that goes contrary to human wisdom but not for me though. All she has to know is exactly what she expects of or from a guy.
I had several relationships with females after FEGO and I was not the one who initiated them....believe it. Does that make me a slacker? Maybe or maybe not. Like I said, I have my own personal philosophy.
Since I had never done it before (toasting, that is) with any female, I did not know what to say.........and alas! I never got around to doing it.
Five years later we met again in 1994 after FEGO and I still had those feelings and I was able to do the toasting this time around since I had garnered a bit of experience over the years. Guess what again? She 'nailed' me and said I was not the person she knew way back then at FEGO......that I had changed!
And I really wondered what kind of change she was talking about. The only change I knew then was that I was having serious pain in a relationship then and seeing her was like the tonic I needed to overcome my pain. But she nailed me. Poor me. If she had agreed, I can tell you she would have been the one sharing my most intimate dreams.
That was never the case however. At times I still think about what kind of couple we would have made. I recall then that we had some qualities in common that I cherish. Well, all that belongs to history now.
So just who am I talking about here. That happens to be my puzzle left for those who read this piece to solve.
Adios!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Honestly, I feel you. When I came up with this post, I discussed it with someone and I thought of myself; I almost pulled it out yesterday while reviewing but your post tells me there is definitely need to shed some weight we have carried for this long.
I can't even make out who this girl turned woman is but really there are feelings you may have to carry all your life; it's a huge challenge when the other person does not see what you see and can't come to terms with what you feel and the reason could be as varied as he's not tall enough, not the kind of Christian man I envisage, rather playful, rather bossy, not as brilliant, not from my state, just don't like him... it could be any reason under the sun.
The good thing though is that you have moved on and I hope the lady has moved on too. Being a counsellor, I know quite a number of folks have had to settle for second choice or just find a reason to love someone else after all love is what we make of it.
Thanks Bros G. When next you think of something that doesn't fit into any of the posts, let me know. Everyone should feel free to send ideas about posts; I don't want to have to do all the thinking.
Nice one guys, its a pity i was just one of the quiet easy going guys who simply just wanted to pass unnoticed and i am sure i did or can anyone say otherwise? Come to think of it shortly after we resumed into then Form one now JSS1 i was informed off the likes of Baba Dracula, Kahiti (student who didnt like breaking into lockers but would rather steal the whole thing and sometimes whole lots of them), Bush babies, the Iroko tree in front of the library that people say they see humans coming out from and all sort of things,Boy!!! i said to myself i was not gonna last the first term but on one of the nights about 6 lockers were said to be missing from a room a chap called Biola Oshodi told me don't worry i felt i would not be here now but i am enjoying it now, he was just a year ahead of us then.
Anyway u all know thats all history now as i found it hard to believe a couple of weeks to our leaving fego that it really was coming to an end but i actually did enjoy it and i guess that was a part of my life that i wished i had recorded on video especially the occassion i was voted by the likes of Rita Makama, Uche Nwanaforo, Sola Odutola, Seye Sanyaolu, Gbemi Ogunniyi, Premo Ojokojo, Wunmi Omonijo etc to contest as one of the ugliest girls on girls day, Congrats to DAVID KEMMER, he won the competition. I definitely would not dress up as a female now as u all know why, the chicks would come after me but come to think of it maybe i should as my wife and daughter would be sure daddy isnt up to any pranks ha ha ha.
I was absolutely crazy about Ronke Sholarin and Iyabo Amoda. But being a hardcore slacker I had to stay true to myself and do what I had to do- slack
I had a crush on...
Oh my gosh! I still have a crush on her...
And still too much of a slacker to say it.
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